Angry people live in angry bodies.
Frightened people live in easily frightened bodies.
Worried people live in worried bodies.
Tense people live in tense bodies.
Defensive people live in defensive bodies.
Traumatized people live in traumatized bodies.
Everything you experienced as a child of an alcoholic gave you the body you live in now. Every yelling match. Every “pack your bags” in the middle of the night rush. Every frightening and muffled sound from beyond your bedroom door. Every time you were not seen, heard or cared for in the way you needed. It all lives in your body.

The only way to heal is to get in touch with our bodies. To become aware of the sensations in our bodies as they happen. To make our bodies our cherished friends. To undo years of being disconnected from our bodies as a way to survive what we were living in.

Try yoga. Hiking outside. Breathwork. Massage. Dance. Running. Climbing. Inhabit your body and begin to notice the sensations. It is the only way to move traumatic feelings out of you for good so you can fill your body up with new and wonderful memories.

As Bessel van der Kolk so powerfully states in his wonderful book “The Body Keeps The Score”: “In order to change, people need to become aware of their sensations and the way their bodies interact with the world around them. Physical self-awareness is the first step to releasing the tyranny of the past.”

I’m going to practice yoga and go on several hikes this week. Tell me how you plan to get more in touch with your body this week to begin to heal the past. We’ll do it together.